We are Genderfluid!

Anonymous asked: here is the reason RHPS doesn't bother me when other things that are offensive for offensiveness' sake do: it's not for shock value. RHPS is meant for people who see it every week and aren't going to be surprised by slurs (although the one that was mentioned is never said in the shadowcast i go to). it's not trying to sell tickets based on the fact that it'll piss off your mom. for me, it's always felt like a safe space, even if they make jokes that would bother me in a comedy movie. (1/2)

This is about the Rocky Horror Picture Show ask from before; there are more in the queue. I’ll use the movie name as the tag.

superwhopaganindigogiraffe:

This is an icon button I made for my profile (I have several on there you can see them if you scroll down and look in the side bar)

Anyways. Here’s the code for it. Feel free to use this code. I won’t delete the image or change it. 

<img alt="I'm Gender Fluid" src="http://25.media.tumblr.com/avatar_643d5983cb77_64.png" />

Thank you so super much!! Hurray!!

oddsrneverinourfavor asked: Do you know where in can find an HTML gender fluid banner/flag i can put in my sidebar? Thanks!

I was not successful in finding one myself, but I hope someone knows how and will share with us. I imagine once you know how you can use the colors you prefer, whatever they are. The one we use as our icon is not an official flag, but I like it; it was made by 

thoughtstoberemembered.tumblr.com

Anonymous asked: Thank you T_T <3 Using the umbrella term "queer" makes sense in my book. I always thought I was more heteroflexible, but "queer" is a better term :) Asexual, heterosexual, bicurious, oh fuck it all. Let's all be queer :D

I’ve always liked that word, even before I was aware of its usage as we use it now, I liked how it sounds. I think of ‘queer’ as being a sort of compliment that complements a word like the contemptuous label of “Muggle.” Queer would mean, in this usage, someone who is not boring, everyday, regular, run of the mill. Someone who’s quirky, special, interesting, curiosity-inspiring, and intriguing. 

So that’s one reason I like to think of myself as queer, and like other queer people. My specifics of how I’m queer shift from time to time, sexually and in gender and other ways, but I’m always out of the ordinary and that’s what I like to find in others!

Hermie

Anonymous asked: What should I do if I don't have a chest binder?

Please check the “Binding” and “Binding without a binder” tags here; there are lots of ideas. Don’t use an ACE bandage.

serrure asked: Hey guys, I sent an ask a while ago on anon (but I think it must have got lost) but since I sent it I've gained a lot more confidence in my gender to be able to post off anon, and it's really all thanks to this blog, and the people who post here. Even reading the questions about things that don't apply to me helps, because it's just nice to know that other people are going through similar-ish things, so thanks so much for that!

I’m sorry we haven’t responded to your anon message yet (or that it got lost, if it did!). But I’m proud of you for being more confident. Thank you for being supportive and appreciative. We’re all extremely busy lately and we’re very very well aware of the backlog of asks; we mean to catch up when things get more under control. But life seems to keep throwing us curve balls!

fuckinpsycho asked: Do you know where I can find any cheapish binders in the UK? I need some where hopefully the postage won't be too expensive. If you've got any advice that would be perfect - If anyone else who sees this does - give me a message :)

I’m certain that people do know. And now, I hope, they’ll tell you good answers!

satan-is-my-homegurl asked: Another inexpensive alternative for a binder would be control top panty hose. Cut off the control top part and pop it on your chest. It may not work well for everyone, depending on chest size and such, but it's something!

Anonymous asked: Just wanted to share a little trick. If anyone doesn't have/can't afford to get a chest binder, wearing a sports bra can be a pretty good alternative. Obviously it isn't as good as a binder, but it's better than nothing. Also maybe this seems like common knowledge, but I thought I'd share just in case it'd be helpful to someone who didn't think of it. :)

Anonymous asked: Is it even possible to jump from one sexual label to another in such a short notice? I mean, in the big picture, I'm asexual, but at the same time, I just can't seem to stick to one thing, so to speak. Some days I do feel asexual, even aromantic asexual. Other days I feel hetero-asexual. Sometimes I feel like I'm multisexual. Sometimes I feel even bicurious. I'm sorry if this confuses you, because I'm confused myself ._.

this is part of the reason I stick with “queer”, anon - there are days I don’t want to have sex or even engage in anything romantic, and there are days when I do, but within really strict limits, and every so often on these days my experience of sex and desire are entirely different from the last time I was sexual, and pinning down a sexuality would be entirely pointless for me.

I’m not sure quite what I’m saying here, anon, but I guess what I mean is twofold: firstly, sexuality is a thing that can change heaps over a lifetime or even over shorter periods of time, just like gender or sometimes alongside gender changes; secondly, sometimes it’s not even possible to find a label for what you are on any given day or as a whole. So yes, it’s possible, and you’re perfectly- well, not normal, since I don’t really feel like normal is a meaningful word, but you’re not alone, in any case.

-Key

Anonymous asked: I'm still trying to figure it out myself, as it's a little confusing for me! I don't mind being called the female gender pronoun, I still feel like I want to be a boy sometimes, and other days I love being a girl. It's really confusing for me, because I don't really know how I feel, because sometimes I don't feel like either, and then I can be really girly some days, and others I want nothing more than to lose all of my curves and be treated like a boy,it's really confusing, is it genderfluidity

Yes, it sounds that way to me…but I’m not you and cannot be the one to decide!

Flavia

Anonymous asked: I'm biologically a girl and I'm currently in a (pretty serious) relationship with a boy. He is biologically a boy, and he identifies as male, nothing else, and he is straight. I have had confused feelings on my gender for years, and am now considering coming out as genderfluid. I'm just afraid of his reaction.

I’ve been in this situation before myself, Anon. It all depends on the specifics, I guess, especially your sweetheart’s feelings about you and about gender. You might do well to do some gradual education for him, in case he’s totally unfamiliar with genderqueer people as a face to face thing…it’s not the same as knowing the concept as an abstraction…

Do you readers have any help for this writer?

Flavia