Anonymous said: Hey I'm gender fluid and I'd like to try binding on my masculine days but I'm worried because some ppl say it wrecks breast tissue and I don't want that on my feminine days. Is it true??? I'm nervous to try...
It does thin breast tissue, but that’s over a period of years. Nothing bad would happen if you just wanted to try it a few times. I believe it also depends on how long you wear it per day, and maybe also the tightness?
-short term you’re not going to have a problem. if you want to try, go for it, your chest won’t suddenly deflate.
-long term, it does make some changes. you basically have to decide whether or not it’s worth it to you. the changes probably wouldn’t be too dramatic, or not in the span of a couple years anyway (it varies by person), but it does thin the tissue. I can’t make that decision for you.
Anonymous said: What's a nan0girl?
dracolegend said: Just sharing: I've been wanting boxers for a while, and today my mom bought me some. I'm so happy!
proteg0 said: I've been questioning my gender for months now and I think I'm genderfluid or genderqueer or nonbinary or something. I'm dfab and experience very little dysphoria. I have days where I feel very femme, but I don't always feel female and femme. Does that make sense? I'm pansexual, but lately I've been leaning male, but it's been feeling more like I'm a gay boy who's feminine than I'm just a boring old straight girl. Can I be a feminine boy and where do I go from here?
That’s entirely possible! Where you go from here is completely up to you. Maybe you want to socially transition to male. Maybe you’d rather be socially nonbinary. Maybe you don’t want to come out. Maybe you want to access medical transition. Maybe you want to go on hormones, or have some sort of surgery, or neither, or both. Maybe you want to present in a feminine matter, or maybe you’d prefer only to do that when people read you as male, or something else. It’s all up to you! Anyway, what you feel is valid—whether you’re a binary trans femme boy, or a femme nonbinary boy, or a femme genderfluid person, or whatever else—and don’t feel your options in who to be are limited by your asab, or femme-ness, or potential nonbinary-ness or fluidity or anything else.
Anonymous said: Is it common to have a hard time adjusting when you first ask people to call you by the name you choose? Because I asked my best friend that a few days ago--she took it well and obliged, but it feels kind of... wrong, like I made a mistake. I really do like the name I chose, it's common and the image I get when I think of it is, well, a male me. But I'm not male, not quite yet, I don't have my binders yet and I still have long hair. Is that why? I'm just really worried about this.
That’s very common, don’t worry. It’ll probably take a week or two at least before you feel like that name is really “you.” I doubt your hair or binding status has anything to do with it, though I suppose it could.
Anonymous said: about my last ask, correct that statement to I was born with a vagina, not as a girl, sorry about that im still sorta trying to grow out of that way of thinking since im only recently (as of last year) aware of why its a problem, again im sorry
Hey it’s all good, I don’t know which ask you’re referring to but it’s okay to have difficulty with this stuff and also to refer to yourself however you like. if it’s the thing I tagged as casual cissexism that’s just in case other readers are upset by that kind of wording and want to avoid it. it’s okay, don’t beat yourself up about it :)