We are Genderfluid!

Apr 25

Seeking Advice

mx-autumn:

What is a positive way to feel in control of yourself/your life/your body? 

Because I’d really like to not relapse but I also need to be in control rn. 

I want to know about that too. Signal boost and I think I’ll follow this post and see what comes up.
Flavia

Are you gender variant, gender queer, trans, body positive or all of the above? -

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Apr 23

Tips?

aquestforpeace:

Any tips or handouts/brochures about coming out as poly and genderfluid to one’s parents? -sigh-

Apr 22

key here-still traveling, will be back in four days and straight to exams, so you may not hear from me much for a bit.

contact me at my personal if you need me!

Hi, Hello. So I’m new here, I am DMAB, identify as genderfluid and I was hoping someone could help/give advise on a few things (sorry, it might be a bit long)

1) So, I don’t know how many other people get this, but the point on the gender spectrum I identify with changes completely randomly. I don’t have masculine days and feminine days, I just wake up, dress in what makes me comfortable but later on that day I may end up hating what I’m wearing, how I’m wearing my hair, etc

2) I have facial hair and even when I’m feeling feminine, I really like it. The problem with that is, I hate that to anyone but me, facial hair is considered a masculine trait and so it challenges the validity of any femininity identify with.

3) I feel like even in the the queer community, I feel as if I’m not considered as a part of the trans* community because I’m not FTM or MTF. Even in the parts of the community that I am accepted, I’m not equal.

4) I have no idea what to do with my pronouns. At the moment, I’ve sort of settled with neutral or no pronouns but even that feel uncomfortable sometimes and I don’t want to be correcting people to a certain pronoun and in a couple of hours correcting it to something else just to cater to me (that would be even more uncomfortable than being misgendered)

5) This is probably something that’s brought up a lot but I have a very masculine body it really gets me down sometimes. I’ve tried many times to use make-up and clothing and all sorts of tricks but on my feminine days it really gets to me that I’ll never be pretty. (it sounds really pre-teen and petty but I can’t help it)

Any help would be super appreciated. 

Apr 21

Anonymous asked: Is it possible to be a genderfluid demiboy? Like does that contradict itself? Given that male is both my predominant and preferred gender...

It is possible, arbitrary things like the social ideas of gender identity are full of paradoxes anyway.

Flavia

rosecransandpunk asked: I think I'm starting to realize that I'm gender fluid between female and agender. I sometimes feel like a girl but others days I really don't feel like either gender, I just feel like a person but not a specific gender. I don't have problem with my female parts (I was afab), but I don't see myself as a female 100% of the time; only about 25% of the time. Would that make me gender fluid?

Why, yes. The body parts are beside the question, though. If your gender changes, you’re genderfluid. You count!

Flavia

Anonymous asked: I don't understand how you can tell if ur genderfluid?

If you feel in your heart that you’re one gender at some times and some other gender at other times, with a possible transition in between, and with other genders possible at other times, you’re genderfluid. It’s got nothing to do with your body or your appearance. 

So I tell people I’m genderfluid with a loud voice and then I hug them silly.

Flavia

Apr 20

Anonymous asked: To the anon who feels like she would also like to have a penis sometimes-- I feel the same way! I've always been worried about saying anything, too, so it's really nice to know there are other people out there who feel this way! It's not something that ever gets discussed, or at least not as frequently as other issues, so it can be hard to talk about.

graspthesanity asked: Hey :D I just figured that I'll ask, coz why not really. I grew up and I pretty much have months when I'm male and months when I'm female and that's how it usually goes, but now that I came out I've been feeling much more male and I feel very alienated from being female, because that's what I've been forcing myself all my life. Does anyone else kind of cling onto the opposite they've been forced into at first? :D just curious :) <3

Followers? This sounds like it’d be a pretty common experience.

Anonymous asked: i'm dfab and i date a cis man. sometimes we use a strap on when i feel more masculine but sometimes even when i feel very masculine i still want to have penis in vagina kinda sex. is that weird? i simply feel like a man who has a vagina and is making good use out of it...i hope that makes sense.

There’s plenty of binary trans men who enjoy having vaginal sex. That’s a thing! 

The ways one likes to have sex don’t have to reflect the way cis heterosexual people like to have sex in order to be valid. 

-Key

Apr 19

Anonymous asked: It has never crossed my mind before at all even though i've known other trans people, but the more i think about it the more my experiences with gender seem to point the same way. It always seemed wrong when people thought i was a girl. I've hated my "feminine curves" ever since i got them - not because they're ugly, they're just not right for me. I explicitly thought about wanting to be a boy a lot when i was younger, but just thought it was impossible and ignored the idea. is this common?

Yes.

Welcome to the club! I’m sure we have followers with very similar experiences.

-Key