Anonymous said: I'm a 16 y.o. biological female who feels like theyre in the right body sometimes and other times i just want to be a male so badly that it frustrates me, and other days i feel like nothing or anything, but i don't have any opportunities to really experiment since I'm in a household thats homophobic and transphobic. i don't know if i am genderfluid or just passing through a phase? please help!
You definitely sound genderfluid to me. I mean, what you said is pretty much the definition. Of course, no one can know but you.
I wouldn’t worry too much about the phase thing—I always feel like that’s a shame-inducing tool meant to keep us from exploring and experimenting with our identities, and it does much more harm than good. It’s possible that later you won’t feel the way you do anymore, and that’s okay. Even if that happened, it wouldn’t make what you’re feeling now invalid.
I’m sorry your living situation is like that. Perhaps you can find ways to experiment inside your head, or secretly, or find some supportive people who are safe and won’t tell your family with whom you can figure things out? I wish you luck. Be safe.