Anonymous said: Hi, I'm going into my Junior year of high school in about a week, and this'll be the first year I'll be fully open with my genderfluidity, and I'd like to start going by my new name and pronouns (I only use one set and one name). I'd really like for my teachers to use them, too, but I'm nervous about asking. How should I go about asking them to use them? Should I ask at all?
Maybe before you start, you could send emails to your teachers saying something like “[polite fluff] On your paper I’m listed as [legal name], but I use the name [new name], and my pronouns are [pronouns], and I’d like you to call me those things instead. [polite fluff]” Or you could go up to each teacher after/before class and say something similar. Here’s another template. Some teachers may be more amenable than others, and some may forget or “forget,” but it’s okay to ask. I did. Depending on where you live, it’s unlikely you’ll encounter outright hostility from your teachers in response, even if they don’t approve, but it’s always a possibility, and it’s something to be prepared for. There’s no “should,” as unhelpful as that is—it’s a decision you have to make for yourself, based on your situation and needs. Good luck!