Anonymous asked: Hi! Love the blog! (Sorry if you get a duplicate of this message- I didn't think it sent the first time.) I'm CAFAB genderfluid panromantic gray asexual (it's a mouthful~), and I rarely think about/desire sex, but when I do, I only imagine it from a male perspective, with a male partner (not just with a cis male), even if I'm not male that day outside of the fantasy. Does anyone else experience something like this? Does your sexuality change with your gender or is it static?
I have no real way of separating my sexuality, personally, from my trauma, but: without going into painful detail, I suppose I’m technically somewhere on the ace spectrum, and when I think about consensual sex, I’m usually male in those thoughts (if not in body, then in mind), much the same as you are.
There’s a lot of us for whom sexuality isn’t static if gender isn’t, though! Plenty of experiences of diversity.